Unlocking Your Superpower: The Art of Acceptance
Acceptance is the cornerstone of our journey as intuitive empaths, and today, I'm diving into how we can embrace ourselves without judgment. It’s all about recognizing where we are in this very moment—not yesterday or tomorrow, just now. We often feel the pressure to conform or compromise our beliefs, but true acceptance means standing firm in our values. I’ll share practical baby steps to align your daily actions with what truly resonates with your core self, as well as the importance of acknowledging our feelings without judgment. So, let’s explore our individual beliefs and passions, because our superpower lies in standing up for what we believe in. Join me as we embark on this path of self-discovery and acceptance!
Today, I delve into the essence of self-acceptance, a topic that resonates deeply with all of us, particularly those who feel intensely as intuitive empaths. The core of our discussion revolves around the idea that acceptance is not about relinquishing our beliefs but rather about understanding and embracing them. I share how the journey toward acceptance can be marked by daily reflections and small actions that align with our values. It’s fascinating how many of us can get lost in the chaos of external opinions and societal pressures, leading to a compromise of our true selves. As intuitive empaths, we often feel the pull to conform, but I challenge you to stand firm in your truth. I suggest practical exercises, like journaling about your core beliefs and values, and noticing where you might be compromising your authenticity. By taking baby steps—whether it's expressing your true feelings in conversations or engaging in activities that resonate with your passions—we can start to reshape our lives in alignment with who we truly are. Acceptance is a continuous process, and as we cultivate it, we not only enhance our own lives but also inspire those around us to embrace their true selves. Let’s embark on this journey together, honoring our uniqueness and the superpower that comes with standing up for our beliefs.
Takeaways:
- Acceptance of self is a journey that involves recognizing your current state without judgment.
- Our superpower lies in standing up for our beliefs and values, which defines our true essence.
- Finding your core beliefs requires introspection and the courage to express your true feelings.
- Engaging in small, meaningful actions that align with your values can lead to profound personal growth.
Originally recorded 2 years ago; this episode still holds so much power.
Transcript
Hello and a warm welcome to the Align WithAlene podcast series.
Speaker A:I'm Aline and if you're enjoying the series, please do like share and subscribe so we can reach as many people as possible and spread the word and help as many people as possible.
Speaker A:Thank you.
Speaker A:Today I'm feeling really strongly that the topic for us to solution find is acceptance, is finding acceptance of self as an intuitive empath.
Speaker A:And this covers so much so the way I like to do things, I like to look at the solutions.
Speaker A:So for me, as I was on my morning walk this morning, I was really feeling the baby steps of acceptance.
Speaker A:Now, as intuitive empaths, we feel a lot, we see a lot, we know a lot.
Speaker A:And oftentimes situations that before even a week ago didn't really affect us can seem to have an effect as we are growing further and further into our power and into our gifts and feeling so much.
Speaker A:So I really felt that acceptance of where you are in this moment in time, not yesterday, because we change every day and there's no such thing as time anyway.
Speaker A:We all know it's an illusion.
Speaker A:So it's accepting yourself where you are at this present moment now.
Speaker A:So I'm talking about now, not five minutes ago, not five minutes into the future, just now.
Speaker A:And that is accepting yourself, mind, body and soul as when we accept ourselves, if we feel there are changes that will help us in our growth, that's when we can start making them.
Speaker A:So let's talk about acceptance.
Speaker A:Acceptance is not compromising, is not compromising your beliefs and your values.
Speaker A:Have you ever been in a situation where you're in a, I suppose a crowd mentality or with a group of people who have very, very strong opinions and you don't have that opinion but you agree.
Speaker A:And when we do that, absolutely no judgment.
Speaker A:And that's the fundamental thing is do not judge yourself.
Speaker A:Do not judge anyone, but most importantly, do not judge yourself.
Speaker A:Everything is a learning experience.
Speaker A:What happens when we compromise our core values and our beliefs is we are not aligning to who we truly are.
Speaker A:We're not accepting ourselves.
Speaker A:So first and foremost, I would say, is find out what are your core beliefs, what are your values?
Speaker A:It doesn't matter about anybody else.
Speaker A:What are yours?
Speaker A:So for example, you may be an avid animal lover and you may adore cats, you may adore dogs, you may adore horses.
Speaker A:Embrace that, own that.
Speaker A:And is there anywhere in your life where you can take baby steps and make that core value a part of your everyday life?
Speaker A:Now, for example, these are just little baby Steps, so you don't have to open an animal rescue if you want to.
Speaker A:Wonderful.
Speaker A:But these are just very baby steps.
Speaker A:So, for example, if you're an animal lover, put some seeds and nuts out for the birds.
Speaker A:If you're.
Speaker A:If you don't have cats, put them very high where the cats can't reach them.
Speaker A:If you are a lover of nature and you don't have a garden, you can always put some.
Speaker A:Go out into nature and put some food out in nature.
Speaker A:Put some nuts out as you go into the woods or into the forest.
Speaker A:Any small action is actually a huge action because what you're doing, you are aligning to your true self.
Speaker A:You're aligning to your core values.
Speaker A:And if there's a situation that you don't agree with, say nothing.
Speaker A:You don't have to start an argument.
Speaker A:You don't have to start a debate.
Speaker A:If you feel very strongly, that is what you would like to do, of course, that's your prerogative.
Speaker A:And in general, know your core values and know your beliefs.
Speaker A:And by not entering into and compromising who you are, that is huge.
Speaker A:So instead of just agreeing with somebody because it's easier, if they say to you, do you know what I mean?
Speaker A:You could use two options.
Speaker A:You could say, actually, this is how I really feel, and that will feel wonderful.
Speaker A:If you're concerned how that will impact on the other person, you could say, actually, I prefer not to talk about it.
Speaker A:And that's a huge one.
Speaker A:When you say to somebody, I would prefer not to get involved.
Speaker A:I prefer not to talk about it.
Speaker A:That is huge, because you're still standing in your belief.
Speaker A:You're not saying, I'm going to start a fight, a debate with you.
Speaker A:You can also, if you're feeling better about the situation, say, I accept your point of view, and you're absolutely entitled to your point of view.
Speaker A:I don't agree, and that's okay.
Speaker A:And if the other person takes humbrage with this, that is up to them.
Speaker A:What we're doing is really.
Speaker A:Ooh, throat chakra.
Speaker A:What we're doing is really standing up for our beliefs.
Speaker A:So your superpower in the world of superheroes, Superheroes, you know, the Marvel superheroes, they're everywhere.
Speaker A:Your superpower is standing up for what you believe in.
Speaker A:So if there is something that you really, really, really, really feel passionate about, start looking at that.
Speaker A:So going back to initially finding out your core beliefs, take pen to paper and just write, how do I truly feel about this?
Speaker A:How do I just choose three subjects, Maybe health, wealth, Spirituality, for example.
Speaker A:Popple those down.
Speaker A:How do you truly feel about this?
Speaker A:And then you could take a step further and just with yourself, no judgment.
Speaker A:Is there anywhere in my life, in my daily life, in my daily activities, where I am not aligning with these beliefs, where these.
Speaker A:I'm compromising my beliefs?
Speaker A:And again, no judgment.
Speaker A:Just note it, because by noting it, it's hugely powerful already.
Speaker A:Okay, so pen to paper, just choose three.
Speaker A:How you feel about certain situations.
Speaker A:What are your core beliefs about that?
Speaker A:How do you feel about wealth?
Speaker A:How do you feel about health?
Speaker A:How do you feel about spirituality?
Speaker A:Choose anything.
Speaker A:How do you feel about animals?
Speaker A:How do you feel about the earth?
Speaker A:How do you feel about the environment?
Speaker A:How do you feel about.
Speaker A:It could be anything that you're hugely passionate about.
Speaker A:How do you feel about interior design?
Speaker A:How do you feel about real estate?
Speaker A:It will all start coming through.
Speaker A:And you may find actually there's some passions that you didn't realize you had.
Speaker A:How do you feel about creativity?
Speaker A:How do you feel about music?
Speaker A:How do you feel about the power of speech?
Speaker A:How do you feel about having fun?
Speaker A:How do you feel about playing?
Speaker A:And all you're doing is just getting to what are your core beliefs?
Speaker A:How do you feel about something?
Speaker A:And it may seem.
Speaker A:And it may feel a little scattered, and this is what I'm feeling at the moment.
Speaker A:This is how it's coming out.
Speaker A:May feel a little scattered to start with, and that's okay.
Speaker A:Just keep writing it down and keep writing whatever's coming out.
Speaker A:Because when we have so much up here, it's very easy to get sidetracked.
Speaker A:It's very easy to check our phones.
Speaker A:It's very easy to have a quick look on social media.
Speaker A:It's very easy to see what's the latest thing coming on tv.
Speaker A:It's very easy to jump into a conversation that we don't particularly have any interest in, but it's taking up time and space.
Speaker A:So this is about connecting with yourself.
Speaker A:So this is about acceptance.
Speaker A:So you don't have to show anybody this.
Speaker A:And make sure as you're writing everything down, there is no judgment.
Speaker A:And if you feel a judgment coming up, you can just go, oh, okay, there's judgment.
Speaker A:That's interesting.
Speaker A:And carry on what you're doing, because it's going to be quite likely that there may be some elements coming up that you feel very passionate about that others around you don't.
Speaker A:And it's very likely that there may be some little beliefs in there that actually aren't yours, that they're the Opinions and stories of others.
Speaker A:We all see through our experiences.
Speaker A:So find yourself a really comfortable space.
Speaker A:Get a candle on, get some music on, have a shower or bath beforehand.
Speaker A:Treat this as your sacred time.
Speaker A:So when you're putting pen to paper, when you're in that moment, you're not going to be disturbed.
Speaker A:You're just in your space.
Speaker A:You're in your, your sacred space.
Speaker A:So get that pen to paper and just really feel into what are your core values.
Speaker A:And also when we start to explore and go inside, we can sometimes feel like a fight, flight, freeze.
Speaker A:You know, the limbic brain can set in because many of us have been in survival mode.
Speaker A:So allow any fears that come up, allow any thoughts that come up and just keep going.
Speaker A:Just know that you're digging deep, you're peeling off layers, you're getting to the core of your true, true essence.
Speaker A:And that's great.
Speaker A:And baby steps, you're not going to do it in one afternoon if you do wonderful baby steps.
Speaker A:So out of those core beliefs, passions that you've written down, just choose one and take an action on that one thing.
Speaker A:So let's say it's about abundance and wealth and you had a limiting belief that you didn't deserve to have money.
Speaker A:But actually what you really feel is everybody deserves to have money, everybody deserves wealth.
Speaker A:That is your core belief.
Speaker A:Go with that.
Speaker A:Maybe write yourself an affirmation, I am abundant.
Speaker A:Or go and choose something that you would feel from others may feel is an unnecessary expense.
Speaker A:Doesn't have to be expensive, just something that feels really beautiful and lovely.
Speaker A:A treat for you, for example.
Speaker A:So that's abundance.
Speaker A:So you work with that.
Speaker A:So I am abundant and make an action on that.
Speaker A:So I'm actually going into a little bit of the practice of my video series here, so I will keep it as short as possible.
Speaker A:So what you're doing is you're taking one of those core beliefs and you're working with them.
Speaker A:And I would invite you to work with that core belief for a month and just see how things start to change.
Speaker A:And every day just take a little action on that.
Speaker A:So with abundance, for example, you could start creating space so you could start going through drawers and wardrobes and taking things out of your life.
Speaker A:You know, the, the Marie Kondo way.
Speaker A:Taking things out of your life that you haven't worn.
Speaker A:If there's any excess paperwork there, just get rid of it.
Speaker A:Because you're allowing that space for other things to come in.
Speaker A:No, throw the, throw the trousers away.
Speaker A:They've got holes in that.
Speaker A:You Never wear or fix them, whichever feels right for you.
Speaker A:Because if you have the mindset that's, you know, of the environment and you don't want to waste the clothes, then fix them and wear them and enjoy wearing them if you want to.
Speaker A:And you've created that space.
Speaker A:If you feel that you would like to have something new, and again, no judgment, do what works for you, then get rid.
Speaker A:Give to charity, make sure it goes to charity, and, and then you're just allowing for something else to come in.
Speaker A:Make sure that whatever you're giving away, somebody else can have the benefit of it.
Speaker A:And if you, you feel you just want to, okay, just get rid and that's it.
Speaker A:Or you want to sell anything, then I would suggest that anything that you sell, a percentage of that goes to something that you really believe in.
Speaker A:So an animal charity, or a children's charity, or a charity that helps with disasters around the world, whatever is your passion as an intuitive empath, you're going to have a huge heart and there's going to be something that really, really feels passionate for you to help.
Speaker A:And as I said, you don't have to create a big rescue group just by giving baby steps.
Speaker A:You are already helping so much and you're as well as you're helping others, you're actually helping yourself as well because you're aligning to your core values and it's going to feel good.
Speaker A:You're going to feel into it as well.
Speaker A:And you'll notice as you just work with it every day for a month, just choose that one and then choose another one and then choose another one that is going to be getting you to who you truly are.
Speaker A:And you may find, and it happens.
Speaker A:It's life.
Speaker A:That's why we're here, for experiences.
Speaker A:You may find people, places, things are going to start naturally disappearing because you are getting yourself into a place that is fundamentally aligning with truly who you are.
Speaker A:And if there's anything around you or within you that doesn't align with that, that will naturally go to create the space for who you truly are and for how your you were born to live.
Speaker A:If excuse the cliche, but it's true.
Speaker A:It's before we arrive, we agree to certain life lessons, we agree to certain experiences.
Speaker A:Some have very, very specific ways of getting there.
Speaker A:Others have, okay, I'm going to get from A to B.
Speaker A:Not quite sure how it's going to happen.
Speaker A:Let's enjoy the ride.
Speaker A:And many of us are intuitive empaths, so just allow whatever is happening to happen.
Speaker A:That's acceptance.
Speaker A:So that's what I really felt to come on today to talk about acceptance.
Speaker A:So when you feel that things are falling around outside of you, or let's say a relationship ends, or let's say a job ends, something happens just out of the blue.
Speaker A:It's about acceptance.
Speaker A:It's about saying, okay, this is for my greater good.
Speaker A:I don't know what that is yet.
Speaker A:You may not know what it is, and absolutely you have every right to feel how that feels for you.
Speaker A:But when we live with a value of acceptance of whatever's going to happen, that really aligns us to our true path and that really stops us from being distracted.
Speaker A:So distractions can be anything.
Speaker A:It could be technology.
Speaker A:Technology is wonderful.
Speaker A:I wouldn't be able to speak to you unless there was technology.
Speaker A:Technology is fantastic, but when it becomes an addiction, it's not so fantastic.
Speaker A:And acknowledging that within yourself with absolutely no judgment at all is vital.
Speaker A:Because if you're finding rather than going within your going to the next online streaming reality TV show or you're going to the next movie that's coming out and it's not really something you're interested in, it's really important that you look at that.
Speaker A:Why are you doing that?
Speaker A:Is that something that's aligning with who you are?
Speaker A:If you're feeling you'd like to watch a documentary on something you have a real passion about, wonderful.
Speaker A:If you want to really immerse yourself into movieland, fantastically can really feel that.
Speaker A:But when it's just iambic pentameter, it's a habit.
Speaker A:And you're not really taking in or growing from what you're looking at, then that is something to look at because you're.
Speaker A:You are not aligning with your core beliefs.
Speaker A:So just to recap so acceptance, acceptance of who you are exactly as you are right now.
Speaker A:Not how you were yesterday, not how you will be in five minutes, not how you be next week to so that's mind, body and soul.
Speaker A:And then taking yourself into a sacred space.
Speaker A:So phone off or do not disturb on if you're listening to music on your phone.
Speaker A:Have a bath, have a shower, get a candle on, get incense music on pen and paper.
Speaker A:And maybe just close your eyes and take some deep breaths beforehand.
Speaker A:And then take that pen to paper.
Speaker A:You could even write with your hand on your heart as well.
Speaker A:And just write down as many values that you have.
Speaker A:So write down as many topics that come up.
Speaker A:You don't have to do them all straight away.
Speaker A:And then choose.
Speaker A:Let's Say three.
Speaker A:And then from those three, you write down what are my real beliefs about this, what are my passions about this?
Speaker A:How do I truly feel?
Speaker A:Not how Tom Dikharri, the neighbour, the neighbor's guinea pig, your auntie's dog.
Speaker A:So what do you feel?
Speaker A:So what do you feel about that situation?
Speaker A:And if anything comes up about how anybody else feels, just notice that that is somebody else's opinion and that's not how you truly feel.
Speaker A:So make a note of that.
Speaker A:So make a note of what are your core values, Your core values.
Speaker A:And then choose one and work with it for a month.
Speaker A:So whatever it is, you just work with it for a month.
Speaker A:And as I said, you don't have to go big, just go really gently.
Speaker A:And if you do the same thing every day for that month, fine.
Speaker A:Just the repetition, the showing up, the consistency, that is what is going to be aligning you to your core value and to your true essence.
Speaker A:And you will find so many shifts and so many beautiful things happening.
Speaker A:Okay?
Speaker A:So I really hope that helps.
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Speaker A:All right, so much love.
Speaker A:Have a wonderful, wonderful time with this.
Speaker A:And if you have any questions at all, please do message me.
Speaker A:What I'm also going to be doing is in the the next few weeks or so, I'm going to be asking people to send me questions and I'm going to feel into the answers and that's what we're going to be doing in the next few weeks.
Speaker A:Okay?
Speaker A:So sending you so much love.
Speaker A:Accept yourself for that fabulous, beautiful, gorgeous person you are.
Speaker A:I have goosebumps as I say this and just be you.
Speaker A:Okay?
Speaker A:Ho.
